When teens try to push their parents away, they still need them to be involved. When parents are involved in middle and high school, both students and school benefit:
- Grades and test results are higher
- Students’ attitudes and behavior are more positive
- Bullying decreases
- School programs are more successful
- Schools are more effective
The participation of parents, including those with limited knowledge of English, is important to the academic achievement of their students and can positively impact the family, the school, and the community:
- The family can learn about the high school system
- Teachers can understand students who come from other cultures more easily
- Students have a support system to help them cope with the challenges of growing up, especially when the challenges are accentuated by conflicting cultures of home, friends, and school
Take an active interest in your student's education:
- Ask your teen about their classes, teachers, homework, and messages from school. Ask about the books they are reading at school or what activities are going on. Knowing that you care will help your teen take school seriously.
- Get to know the teachers, not just one. Attend open houses at school so you know who your teen’s teachers are, and they know you. Don’t wait for a problem to talk to them.
- Make homework a priority. Provide a quiet space at home where your students can do homework without distractions. Help your teen establish a homework routine to follow each day to show your teen that you value their education.
- Find out how to check on your child’s grades and weekly progress. Some schools have parent portals on their websites to keep up to date on school news and messages from teachers.
- Meet with your student’s school counselor to talk about your concerns. Your teen is participating in the New York GEAR UP Program and will be learning about colleges and careers. Talk to your student's teachers and counselors about helping your teen become college or career-ready.
- If English is not your first language and you need assistance, ask for a translator or bring a bilingual friend or family member to parent-teacher meetings.
- Encourage your high school student to join after-school clubs, sports, music groups, or other activities to meet new friends and gain confidence.
- Volunteer at school whenever possible. You can chaperone a school party or dance, help with a club or activity, bake cookies, or something else. It’s good for you to meet other parents and be connected with the school community, and it reinforces the view in your teen’s mind that school and home are connected and that school is an important part of family life. Even a few hours over the academic year makes a big difference.
